1. Make it a Game. Play age-appropriate games, such as “Peek-a-Boo,” “Where is the Baby?” and “Hide-and-Seek,” to reinforce the concept of leaving and returning.
2. Go Gradual. When your child is playing at home, casually mention you are going into another room and will return. Leave for 30 seconds then come back with a cheerful “Hello!” or “See? I’m back!” Gradually increase to a minute, making sure your child is safe before you step out.
3. Do a Trial Run. Enlist the care of a familiar relative or friend in your home for 30 minutes and gradually work up to an hour.
4. Ease Into the Environment. When you leave your child with a caregiver, let him know beforehand you can only stay for a few minutes and then you’ll have to go. Give a two-minute warning, then a one-minute warning before you leave.
5. Rely on the Familiar. Use objects your child has bonded with – a stuffed animal, blanket or toy – to comfort him when you are not around.
6. Use Distractions. Before leaving, get your child and the caregiver involved with an activity to take the focus off of you.
7. Keep Goodbyes Brief. When it is time for you to leave, be simple and direct. Say goodbye quickly, with a clear, loving statement that you will be back. Then go.
8. Don’t Slip Out. You want to foster trust, so always say goodbye. Don’t leave when your child isn’t looking.
9. Watch Yourself. Be affectionate, but avoid making a big production about leaving. Stay calm, even if your child is crying. He will pick up on your emotions. Also, speak positively about the environment to others when your child is present.
10. Maintain Routines. When schedules and routines are the same throughout the day, children know what to expect. Also, make sure he is rested and well fed; children who are tired or hungry are less tolerant of parental absence.
